A GUIDE TO ORDERING SYMPATHY AND FUNERAL FLOWERS
A guide on what and when to order sympathy flowers. Anyone can order flowers to send to a funeral home,church, or graveside service. Friends, family, co-workers, acquaintances, neighbors, etc. Three different choices of arrangements can be sent. A traditional sympathy arrangement is one sided, and is appropriate for all the above listed locations. Keep card messages brief and to the point (ex. With sympathy, The Smith & Allen Families)
A sympathy arrangement someone can take home after services is also appropriate. Vases, baskets, centerpieces all fit this category. A third choice is a green plant or planter of many green indoor plants that a family member can take home, or that you can designate should go home with a specific person ( for Aunt Mary to take home) on the back of the card.
All flower types and colors can be used. There are no set rules that only subdued colors are appropriate, etc.
Avoid overly personal messages or lengthy messages on cards sent to the funeral home or services. Brevity is key. A grieving family will see the card but not always digest your carefully thought out message at that particular moment- with so many other things happening to them. I say this from experience as a florist AND a Widow.
Never send silk/ artificial arrangements, plush animals or balloons unless specifically directed to do so.
If services are private- respect the family's wishes and do not send anything to the funeral home. This results in burdening the family with visiting the funeral home YET AGAIN to pick up flowers, etc. Respect their grief.
"In Lieu of Flowers" means if you want to send something besides flowers are the family's preferences. It does not mean zero flowers at the funeral home.
When sending flowers to the home, scheduling delivery for after the funeral services is our suggested time frame. Again, the family has much too organize, plan and grieve. The likelihood of catching someone at home to receive a flower delivery is not great.
There is no time limitation on sending flowers for sympathy. Nor is there a set arrangement style or color scheme. Card messages can be a bit more expansive, but remember, floral cards are small- typically 2"x3". Anything you would like to express that is longer than a sentence (possibly two) should go on a full size greeting card. These can be included by you in the arrangement prior to delivery, or simply mail them separately.